Dahej (or jahaiz, the dowry by a bride's family) is banned and legalized as criminal offense in modern India as this is considered as exploitation of bride and her family. On the other hand alimony, mostly the man are forced to give his ex-wife is legal and ex-husband are bound to i.e. man earns to pay his ex-wife.
The feminist critic may claim that the alimony is calculated on the income of both, wife & husband income. This explanation is just like that to kill a fish we make law to bind everyone to live out of water. This obviously mean that we want to kill fish. Similarly, in the world, the burden of earning is on man's shoulders, always and unfortunately this is practiced in all communities and regions.
Such misandry family law has made men in depression and ruined their life. Men do earn for a woman who is not his family, this is sort of legal explanation of men. If this good then the beneficiary of the alimony is bound to intimate/intercourse weekly and monthly basis with the payer of alimony? In fact if the ex-wife do sex with ex-husband she still doesn't loose anything, she has still all what she had before intimation but she is not forced by law.
Unfortunately man has been maid a money generator, a buffalo who has to work in the field to feed his lord. Like a donkey to load the burden for his owner.
In ancient times, dahej/jahaiz was introduce for young couple's financial assistance. What does dahej/jahaiz contains? Mostly a double bed, dressing table, furniture and so on.
A funny twist in the Indian law is that dowry by groom is still allowed and no ban imposed. The dowry a man gives at the time of arrival and after the wedding ceremony. This includes bari or wari (gold jewlery, bride's cloths, dresses, birde's undergarments (bra, panties, underwear, lingerie etc.), doodh pilai (cash given to bride's sisters at the time of wedding), gate rukawai (cash given to bride's brothers before entering the hall), joota chhupai (hiding groom's shoes by bride's sisters), mun dikhai (gift as cash or jewllary or both before looking bride's face), bid or baid (dry fruits, fruits, sweets etc. are sent by the groom family to the bride's family after wedding) etc.
As the groom/man and his family spending a lot but still bride/woman is given unjustified favours. The financial exploitation of man doesn't end with the end of his married life, but he still have to play the role of ATM machine for his ex-wife. Unfortunately this is legalized in most of the secular countries of the so-called civilized world.
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